The B word. It's such a dirty and bad word, for Christians especially, but I feel the need to set the record straight, especially today on someone's birthday.
Boundaries are not bad or scary or unbiblical. God created boundaries to help us have healthy relationships with one another. They're very difficult to set and enforce, but they are desperately needed. Remember, we are in the world, but not of it, and therefore called to a higher standard. Boundaries either call us to repentance by helping us see and hear the truth in love, or we refuse to repent and do not accept the boundaries or the grace and mercy extended to us. That is when the boundary- setter experiences the most difficulty, like we have today.
Someone's birthday was today, and for the first time ever, absolutely no acknowledgement was able to be made from us to them. Even last year, we were able to send a card. It's been a very sad day for me because of this, and due to the boundaries we've had to set, and the refusal to repent and apologize, a very heartbreaking and prayerful day for me.