I don't know about you, but often I think about things while I'm getting ready for the day. It usually starts with what's on the daily agenda, moves on to the people I'll interact with and how I can be a better example for the Lord, and then I end up with these random thoughts and connections, which may or may not lead to my solutions for world peace. Yep, all while brushing my teeth.
This morning I was thinking back to last night's interaction with a guy in our ministry. He's a great guy and he's very highly thought of, but I'm not necessarily super close to him (I say this because I'm not typically going to spew forth super personal info to someone I don't feel close to- especially a boy.). The beginning of our conversation went like this...
Guy: Hi Susan, how're you doing?
Me: Hi Guy, I'm good. What about you? (we keep it casual up in here)
Guy: I'm good too. I haven't seen you in a while, what's going on?
Me: Nothing much. Just the same ol', same ol', you know.
Etcetera, etcetera, etcetera... I know, I lead a wild and crazy life!
So this morning I was thinking about what exactly my response means. When I say that, I generally mean, work's crazy as usual, but I'm loving it. I mean that I'm still happily, ecstatically married to my best friend. It means life's the same, dog's the same, still breathing and moving forward. Everything's the same as the last time we spoke.
But then it got me thinking more (see? I told you.)... if I'm called to constantly be growing more and more like Jesus, shouldn't I be different? Everything around me might stay the same for that phase of life, but I should be continually improving and growing more like the Lord, right?
Maybe my response should've been... "Hi friend, today I'm more patient than I was a week ago. How about you?" Or maybe, "Well today I'm struggling with the grouchies because I didn't get much sleep last night. What about you?" Or even, "You know what? I just realized I wasn't praying as much so far today as I've been thinking I have. I better go get on that. How's your prayer life today?"
I've always been one for honesty when asked how I'm doing. I think if you're going to ask, even if it's just a social greeting, you should mean it and be prepared to listen to the answer, whatever it may be. I see this as another easy way to show Jesus to whomever I'm speaking with. I'm not always great at this, but I do try.
All that to say, I think this also applies when people want an update on your life. I think what they really want to know an update on is YOU. Not just what's going on, although that can be a fun conversation, but we really seek that deeper connection with others you know? Especially as a woman, I'm made to be more relational. The original real conversation didn't feel all that relational to me, did it to you?
Yet another thing to work on, but hey, if it shows people Jesus and gives more glory to Him, then I've improved even a little more than yesterday, haven't I? And that means I'm not just the "same ol', same ol'!"